I believe this and live it with my whole heart.
This can be compatible with my longer term mantra which reads ‘if you build it he will come.’ Field of Dreams. I am building something but I don’t need to be cloistered in a nunnery, or my office to get there.
I posted this the other day.
My sunshine caught me in a moment of bliss. An old friend messaged and said I looked stunning and happy.
I said “I was at the beach, fresh out of the water, flirting with a 27 year old Scorpio. In other words, utterly in my element.”
I have a penchant for finding Scorpios. Or maybe they find me.
Whether it be on a balcony overlooking Bourbon Street nestled in a boy’s lap whispering secrets, coveting what I saw every day aka Hot Neighbor, Young Un the First seeing just pictures of each other and declaring we wanted that one, once upon a Sunday, that friend of mine with a purdy mouth or this new Thai Fighter I found.
They’ve all read the Handbook I wrote and declared that I knew what I was talking about.
The new one said so and I replied, “Everyone needs a hobby.”
He proceeded to fuck me in that perfect/intense way Scorpios are prone to do.
But it’s deeper than that.
Messages with another friend this morning…
Him: So what’s your Scorpio doing?
Me: Being cute as fuck.
I am currently writing a thing about how I have a certain level of expectations based on age and sun sign. And although I am not punishing the new ones for the behavior of the old I do find myself pleasantly surprised when a new one ups the bar.
Him: Those are always fun moments. Being surprised in a good way.
Me: Yes. This.
He messages me more frequently and is more attentive than I expected.
Him: Hmmmm so maybe rethink the Handbook?
Me: We had a moment where I was trying to leave and respect his work/sleep schedule and he said ‘one more story’, 5 more minutes.
Him: I keep waiting for the rug to be jerked or the ice water to fall on me. That IS fucking cute
Me: I know right? He asked me to come over the very next night and I actually had to send him a message saying I didn’t know him well enough to read if that was sarcasm or not.
I get that I wasn’t expected. I kinda showed up outta nowhere.
He has work and goals and man-bonding shit to do. This is where past lessons are useful. I understand.
It could have gone the other way and he could have said ‘this wasn’t in the plan for me’, still could. So I understand your rug analogy.
(The Him I’m speaking to has a Scorpio of his own, I may be chairing that support group I have joked about joining)
Me: If I know anything about Scorpios, and I do…just take it as it comes. They don’t lie. It’s beneath them. They need space sometimes and will say so. We just have to respect it. Let them know it’s really okay.
Him: She loves that I can see her. I notice things and it drives her mad, but she loves it too.
Me: Yuss. They do so very much love that. (Everyone does)
The ones I’ve known seem to function on a different plane of awareness. Like alien visitors from another planet. They don’t understand even the whitest of lies or sugar-coating shit. They observe and see a lot of bad in the world. It weighs them down. So if someone can come along and accept them as-is, rejoice in their idiosyncrasies, show them kindness, understanding and enthusiasm it makes them open up and show these beautiful souls hidden under armor.
Him: That’s basically it, yes.
Me: Everyone loves being noticed, and it is a huge bonus when the noticing is of the quiet things left unsaid.
Oh honey. I could teach a course, you know this. And as of late, if a pretty boy moth comes towards my flame it’s almost a guarantee that when the birthday conversation arises October 21st to November 21st will be the answer. To which I reply, of course you are. Come here boy.
Thai Fighter and I were talking after dinner, when he said November 17th, I felt my eyes flashed high beams and his flashed right back.
Him: Jesus, if the universe decides this one is a no, I’m not sure I could handle another Scorpio
Me: He read the article and said it was spot on…
Oh honey. Good luck with that, they are harder to quit than heroin.
Those of us who do not lie make them feel better. This world really is shit and we are little islands of safety, comfort and joy.
Him: You know that is her biggest thing. No lies
Me: As much as they are wonderful jewels of sexy awesomeness, they need us too. It’s a good secret club to be part of.
Him: I like this club.
Me: I find they bring out my most calm and confident self. Insta-Zen. No bullshit, no games. It’s nice. I need a rest too, and to be fed and I am totally writing an article as we are speaking. Ha 🙂
Truth be told I have never fancied being some queen on a throne with every whim satisfied or riches placed at my feet.
I like my books, movies and men with plot twists.
I enjoy the work, figuring things out, reading the subtle subtexts. I love being challenged and tested. I get off on figuring things out and adapting. I enjoy being understanding and kind. I relish sitting back and watching what people do on their own. I have no desire to influence anyone’s behavior. My satisfaction lies elsewhere. My life is full of organic, ecstatic movie moments because I let things happen.
You flipped the script and shot the plot (Sedona, Houndmouth)
And that is just fine by me.
As a Scorpio seeing a Gemini who is over 10 years my junior, I approve this message. 😉
i’m a gemini seeing a scorpio who is 15 years my junior. we are well met 🙂
Im learning & loving my Scorpio Nov 20 , omg !
so much fun and no bullshit. they mean the words they say. so refreshing.
I recently found out my rising/ascending sign is scorpio. I am a taurus but honestly finding out my rising sign has made me feel more at home in myself. Still learning and connecting the dots can be hard. I have spent a good ten years shutting my feelings away but was rudely awakened last year and now there is no avoiding my emotions. I will read everything you have here, thanks.
thank you. i was told by an old wise woman a long time agao not to go around judging people on when their birthday falls, but going in with a little knowledge was not the worst thing in the world.
It’s funny. I read this entry a couple months ago, I think it was actually the very first one I read. I had some preconceived idea about Scorpio at the time, even though I’ve only actually met one, and that one was only met in this crazy, messed up, crap of a year. I kinda smirked at this particular article the first time reading it. And then forgot about reading it altogether.
Flash forward: So I’m slowly (and patiently as is possible for a Cap with Virgo ascending) trying to get to know this gorgeous Scorpio who lives right around the corner from me. We met by dog, lol! He has a big all white husky who perfectly resembles my all white chihuahua (Jegus, could this be a metaphor?) He doesn’t let me see him much, texts even less, but when we do happen to meet – usually on my front porch where he stops while walking his beautiful dog – he hugs me and those hugs go on for a lonnnng time, and then another hug when he leaves even if that’s only a couple minutes later. (I’m writing too much, sorry, nowhere else to share this) The hug confuses me. Or is it the not texting part? Or was it the part where he made it a point to stop by 2 days before Thanksgiving cuz he was going to be gone for the holiday and wanted to, “say it in person cuz actions speak louder than words”…. but he wasn’t even gone 12 hours!
I’m sure I’ve lost you by now, lol! I’m a bit wordy at times (geee thanks midheaven in GEMINI of all the signs! *rolls eyes right out of head*) I’m flustered with this one. I don’t even know how to proceed anymore! My luck, it’s one of those *keep her interested in case i get bored* type of games. But those hugs….
(Reading your blog has been helping me a lot. Just wanted to throw that in here since this is already too long and I’ll probably hide for a while now, lol!)
any attention from them is good attention, and they function on their own timeline.
sounds like it’s fun for you so far, so just relax and enjoy
This is from my perspective as a taurus with scorpio rising… As far as the no texting, there is too much room in texting for lies and fake personality. I have become extremely wary of people in the dating game who can only communicate via text because their actions never match their words. They are creating a fantasy and then trying to live it but what they don’t realize is their fantasy even if they are creating it can only be seen from my own point of view, and so it fails because my point of view is much different than theirs. This I learned while trying to date a very immature and ego driven Gemini. A year later and he is still messaging me offering another chance, as if I must be hoping for it.
I do know what you mean about those lopsided, ego driven Gemini, Alison, lol! My last guy was one, and about 6 months after I cut off all contact he messages me saying that if I wanted to contact him from time to time check on see how he’s doing that it was fine with him. My response wasn’t the nicest, lol, but haven’t heard from him since!!!
And I agree regarding texting + the fantasy-world people like to create. I just mentioned it as being among the list of things he could be doing, but really isn’t. As anybody, I do understand he had a life before meeting me. I’m just not very good at the “dating game” so I’m prone to getting myself confused at times when it comes to people who are accustomed to the dating thing.
I understand what you mean, Sarah. I definitely enjoy the moments with him for the most part 🙂